Forced Positivity

 I joined a group called Helping Parents Heal, for parents who have lost a child.  So many posts I can relate to... unfortunately.  This post was very well said, so I will just copy it:

The Club No One Ever Wants to Be a Part Of

Yes, we are part of that club, unfortunately, unforgettably.

The club of absolute, life-altering pain.

The club of the saddes stories with the most beautiful angel faces I have ever seen.

The club where every single one of us is shattered.

The club where we may pick up the pieces, but we will never truly be whole again.

The club where behind every smile, is still the pain.

It's the club I wish none of us ever had to be in. But if I had to choose the people to stand beside me in the fight of my life, it would be this club. These people.

The club of the scrappiest souls I ever met. The club built on resilience, perseverance, and unwavering faith in more. The club filled with the biggest hearts and the deepest compassion this world has ever known. The club of people who fight to survive every single minute of every single day.

The club where most of us have never met, yet we are instantly bonded for life. Oh, and did I mention?  This club has a force like no other on the other side. Our children, our beautiful, brilliant children, are sending us gifts from beyond.

This club... I hate that we're in it. But the impact it has, the love, the strength, the undeniable power.  That is something truly beautiful. I'm sorry you're here, but I'm thanksful to have you on my team.


I am fighting a deep depression and hole in my heart.  It is the hardest thing in the world, but I am really trying to work on keeping my thoughts positive and my light bright.  I am trying to think of doing good for others. I don't know much of anything. I know I love my McKel. I know she was trying to reach us with the lights the other day.  I know love is everything.

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